My straight female friend, after I (a gay man) pointed out that she and her boyfriend can safely go to one of the many clubs in the city that aren’t specifically a space for queer people, as opposed to me, where gay bars are the only place I can be assured I won’t be decked by a drunken homophobe for flirting with or in front of him. But apparently the music is better, so that doesn’t matter. Made me feel dismissed, trivialized, and fetishized, like going to a gay club is some cute niche interest like going to a goth club. (via microaggressions)
I have so many straight friends who go to the gay clubs, and this is how I feel.